Thursday, 15 May 2008
Master(bater)'s
Ask anyone who knows me, even a little, if I am a submissive girl... and they will laugh in your face. By nature, I'm not submissive, quite the opposite actually. But those who know me well, have a deeper understanding of my nature. Generally speaking, being submissive is seen as a weakness of character. I would have to disagree with that, however. To submit to someone who is deserving of that kind of control and influence, takes strength. For me, it is a challenge I face head on, because it is outside of my usual manner. So why do it? When you have a Master who really knows what it means to be one, he is taking responsibility for your growth. He wants you to evolve as a woman (or man) and be something better than you are. He sees your potential and wants to help you to fulfill it. It's almost a relief to have that pressure taken off my shoulders, the pressure of being solely responsible for every decision, every situation. I find comfort in the guidance and the able hands.Now, SL offers an abundance of Masters. Drop by the House of V, or Bound and Determined, or any one of the many places in SL that cater to the BDSM world, at any time and you will find plenty of them. But... I assure you, just because a man calls himself a Master doesn't make him one. To so many it seems to be about mainly the sex. But let's be honest: sex in SL is what it is. Virtual. So there just has to be something more to it.The last Master I had claims to be a dominant in RL as well (as most of them do). We met in Rigi and I was enamored with his voice (he refuses to emote at all and seldom types, which to be honest is probably due to his endless spelling and grammatical errors that reveal his true intelligence level), and followed him back to his castle where I "played" with one of his slaves for over an hour... It quickly evolved into more as we talked further and realized we had certain fetishes in common. There was a period where it was all fine. A short period.The entire time I knew him he was telling me about another girl, that I have since kind of befriended. He described her as annoying among other things I will leave out here. I thought little of it at the time.When I was considering a collar with him, one of the things I asked him was... how many did he want? Before me there were 2 others, both of whom I really liked, and felt comfortable with. I felt that I of course, had to accept things as they were upon arrival, or... not. But I didn't want to be one of a throng of slaves. He assured me that there would be no more after me. That being said, when I arrive at the castle one day to hear that he was going to be collaring someone, I was livid, and felt betrayed. But to hear that of all people, it was someone he had only spoken poorly of, so much more respect was lost.He told me he was only asking to collar her because she currently had a Master who was abusive. My response? Then help her as a friend. His response? He said he knew that when he asked me I would say no. So then he was being there for her and knew he wouldn't end up as her Master. I lost further respect. Why? Well first of all, that reeks of a lie. And second of all, how passive aggressive and pathetic is that?!?! And this is supposed to be someone I can learnfrom? A "passive aggressive" Master is an oxymoron. And a moron. LOL.The next day I came to the determination that I was no longer wanting to be a part of his clan. I had a talk with him and explained to him I was returning my collar, and explained to him why. He told me he would compare every other to me, and that I was the one for him. He pleaded with me not to leave. He told me he loved me. Yada yada yada. My answer remained the same.In the days that followed, I experienced things in SL I had never before. He sent "hunters" after me. I was caged numerous times. Before he was banned from the sim where I live, he floated outside my parcel with some of his tragic groupies doing things like this to me and the guest on my land (who now has my heart, lol):
When "capturing his runaway slave" was unsuccessful, he turned his threats to my RL. He said he had recorded web cam sessions of me. He threatened to post them online and in world. He posted a picture of me (a RL picture!) without my consent (obviously) on his profile. I mean I can't even remember all the things he did, it was relentless.Is this the behavior of a Master? I think not. Nor is this the behavior of an individual with any maturity or sense of what BDSM is all about. When I was with him, even when it was good... beyond the sex... I was left feeling like... "Well now what? What else is there?". I knew there had to be more to being someone's slave than the sex. And this is where I am attempting to coin the phrase "Master(bater)" LOL. Defined: One who calls themselves a Master, but who really is just in it for the masturbation.After me, he did go on to collar that other girl. Even when I returned the collar he said he wouldn't... and he did. And another one too. Neither are still with him. He still has the original two on his profile. One who he has since married, and managed to brainwash into believing he did none of these things to me, that I made it all up. The other who hasn't even signed on since April 6th, and whose profile is now gone. The general talk about town is: she has created an alt and wanted to leave him without going through the inevitable harassment I encountered.There are Master's out there who are not like him. There are good ones, who do understand the deeper side to things, who aren't in it just for the sexual aspect, who do keep their word and are deserving of respect and submission. Don't get me wrong. But there is also a large amount of men in SL calling themselves Master who have no idea what that really means.My advice? Choose wisely. Spend a good amount of time together before investing that kind of trust. Be careful about giving out your pics and doing things you wouldn't write home about on web cam with someone you aren't totally sure of. And for the love of god... be strong enough to leave when it isn't right. His actions that were meant to bring me back, only reinforced to me all the reasons I was leaving. But I had the strength to walk away. Don't be afraid to do the same! It was one of the smartest moves I ever made in SL. And I have since gone on to find a truly intelligent, respectable, intriguing, and mind-blowingly erotic man...There is hope yet.Chloe Cantrell
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